It Begins With You!

Lingerie begins with you. It’s the clothing you wear right next to your skin, covering the most intimate parts of your body. It can serve many purposes to the wearer but the basics are this. The right lingerie will:

When you find lingerie pieces that accomplish all of the above, several things happen. First and foremost, your figure is enhanced, in the process showing off your best assets while diminishing those you may be less crazy about. Perhaps you’ve boosted up some cleavage or cinched in a waistline a bit as well. For women, who are so naturally body conscious anyway, feeling good about how you look is a huge deal. Looking your best will boost your self-esteem and confidence and make you feel beautiful; the next step of course will be that you will also begin to feel very sexy and desirable. That part will be easily achieved first by wearing something you feel attractive in and then secondly, the next step is to get the reaction that you were looking for in the first place from your significant other.

Then it Becomes about HIM!

Men are incredibly visual creatures and this fact is easily forgotten by women who tend to be seduced initially on a much more cerebral level. (Which is why we want you to feel sexy and beautiful first--it instantly translates to something on the exterior!) Men are engaged and seduced first with their eyes and this happens of course with visual stimulus. There are a few important factors that you should consider when designing and creating this lovely vision for your man. Sure you can just throw on a sexy nightie and yes, he will like it. You will get where you are going as if you are riding in a taxicab--but we’re here to tell you that sometimes it’s far more thrilling and exciting to head to your destination in a stretch limousine. Adding a bit of sexy drama to your lingerie experience is going to add three important elements.

• Mystery. Even if he knows on some level what’s under all that pretty stuff--he’s going to love the newness of a little naughty mystery and suspense. Men are programmed to hunt and to enjoy going on adventurous quests. Making yourself into one of these is going to tantalize him beyond words.
• Excitement. Once you’ve introduced the mystery element it quickly introduces a level of excitement that is very arousing to men. The combination of an intense visual stimuli and a nearly consuming excitement is going to get him going very quickly.
• Tease. Men love to be teased, particularly when they know that they will eventually get the pay out. There is something (once again) about having to work a little harder to attain their prize or achieve their quest that appeals to the male instincts.

So How Do I Do It?

Once you have the perfect lingerie ensemble (or several, ladies please--variety really is the spice of life!) put together and you feel fabulous, then it’s time to figure out the best way to plan your attack so you can obtain all three of your objectives--mystery, excitement, and teasing.

There are many ways to build mystery into your use of lingerie. Lingerie, in and of itself, creates mystery just in the inherent qualities that it holds--covering and/or showing off the most intimate parts of your body and showcasing some of it while hiding other parts. There is no doubt about the fact that often times “nearly naked” is far more sexy than completely naked; this is because of the mystery factor.

Mystery can be exacerbated or enhanced in many other ways once you have your lingerie items selected. Plan a special night out with your lover. Imagine being in a dimly lit restaurant. You are dressed in your loveliest clothes and perhaps your hair is pulled back and up to show off your beautiful neckline. Coyly and softly inform your beau that you have something special planned for him--and that you are wearing it. Immediately you have created a mystery--and he will be instantly entranced and drawn into the seductive dance you have planned for him.

Building excitement is the next step. Remember ladies, men are visual creatures so now may be the perfect time to give him a little tantalizing peek at what you’ve got up your sleeve. If you are wearing some very sexy thigh high stockings and a garter belt (a very good idea by the way) snuggle up to him in the restaurant booth and discreetly pull your skirt up a little on the side to give him a tiny “peek”. This little gesture is going to not only build excitement but it is going to drive him crazy. You may want to save this move for after dinner while you are waiting on dessert. He will be forced to sit there in anticipation for that much longer, but inside of himself he is likely to be calling out, “Check, please!”

Teasing is the next step and this is very important to really build up the excitement and anticipation in your man. You will discover quickly that the journey you take with him is equally as exciting as the destination, so prolonging the anticipation as well as excitement through teasing is going to make the process much more thrilling. If you go back to our romantic dinner scenario for a moment we can pick up the scene from where we left off. You’ve informed your man that you have a special surprise for him, and that you are wearing it. You’ve also given him a little peek--perhaps, even let him gently touch your leg in order to feel a garter that is attached to your hose. After dinner ends you quickly leave the restaurant. He’s a guy--he may want to run, but since you may be in heels, take this time to sexily saunter out. Get into the car slowly and if your skirt hikes up a little more than usual, that’s fine--it adds to the tease and the visual excitement you are building up in your man.

 

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Some Pointers To Get The Passion Started

Knowing your guy and understanding the inner workings of your relationship, the rest of the night is likely to take it’s course in a way that is comfortable as well as fun and sexy for you both. Here are the key pointers to remember no matter what kind of a romantic and passionate encounter you are planning.

• Create mystery by making your lover wonder what’s under all that satin and lace. Making your man wonder what is hidden is fun even for couples that have been together for many years.
• Build excitement and anticipation. Prolonging the inevitable is very exciting for men. You can accomplish this by wearing your sexy lingerie underneath your clothes, or even by planning a sexy strip tease in private quarters.
• Tease. Men love to work for things, especially when they know they will eventually win the coveted prize. Coyly teasing your guy with little peeks of leg or cleavage is a great place to start.

When it comes to romance, men are often at a loss as to how to create it, and even the most seasoned male will often have a difficult time with this concept. Women know what they want; sometimes you just have to set up a scenario where good things can happen. Even the most primeval male is likely to respond accordingly when he knows your mission is to seduce him! There are many ways you can easily set up a romantic encounter with your man to let him know undoubtedly that you have your designs on him. Here are a few simple ideas to help you set your plan into motion!

Baths for Two: If you have a large bathtub, there is little that is more sexy and romantic as a warm, sudsy bath for two. There is something incredibly sensuous (not to mention steamy) about water, candlelight and scented bubbles. Prolonging sexy playtime while soaking in the tub while bathing, washing and being intimate together is very erotic.

Back Rubs: Wearing sexy lingerie for your man while you are massaging his stress and troubles away with a luxurious back rub will sound like paradise to most any man. You can easily make him your captive, as he literally becomes putty in your hands!

Fireplace: There is something very romantic and sexy about the warmth and flicker of a fireplace burning on a chilly evening. Take full advantage of this brilliant mood setter and eat a light dinner in front of the fireplace or snack on strawberries while you sip champagne.

Strip Tease: You have no idea how powerful this can be--and it doesn’t have to be super orchestrated or choreographed to be effective. Having your man watch you slowly (very slowly!) and seductively take your clothing off is one of the most thrilling and erotic teases ever. Take advantage of this seductive methodology, even if you just sit him down to watch you slowly undress one seductive piece at a time. Your strip tease is going to be ten times more effective if you have new and sexy things on that he’s not used to seeing. Garters, stockings, heels, corsets or a seductive bra and panty set are a great place to start.

Drinks for Two: Whether you are making a sexy cocktail for your sweet or sharing a bottle of wine, relaxing over a nice drink is a good way to warm up and start an inner fire for two.

You are now ready to have an adventure for two starring you in some very sexy lingerie! From exotic styles to those more traditional, from hot and sexy to innocent and demure, from playful to glamorous--lingerie is not just for ‘other’ women--it’s for every woman. Find your perfect beautiful lingerie pieces that feature your best assets and make you feel confident as well as sensuous. The next step is to go out and have the sexy adventure that you want and deserve, bringing all the romance and passion quickly back into your life, exactly where it needs to be.